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Does it matter if a guy is married but still looking for sex? If the guy is upfront about being married, not hiding it, should it matter? There are many people on this site (single & married) (male & female) who seem to just be looking for some NSA sex, so what should be the problem? I would think that would maybe even be desired if you don't want to get tied into anything. As long as you both know going into it of course.

So anyway, looking for opinions on the subject.

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UPDATE!!!!! UPDATE!!!!! UPDATE!!!!!
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Hello All,
First please let me say THANK YOU to all of you who have contributed to this topic by posting your thoughts and opinions. Very much appreciated to have such a great response. So thank you!

After reading through all the responses it seems clear that there is an over-whelming majority who are NOT in favor of having a sexual relationship with a married person, NSA or otherwise (without the spouse’s consent). There is a spectrum of opinion but if forced to answer either yes or no I think the numbers would be overwhelming for NO.

I can understand that and accept it. There is a lot at risk for everyone involved in such a situation, from STD’s, to money, to husbands (or wives) with guns. But I guess the biggest risk (depending on the situation) is the emotional toll. First for the spouse who finds out he/she is married to a person who has not been faithful; then for everyone involved (including the “other” person) and even for those not involved ‒ like . Any trust in a marriage will be lost immediately and once that is gone there is little hope for its survival. Years could go by before those involved recover from the emotional nightmare that could result.

So, I guess you all have the right and safe attitude if nothing else. You all have really helped clarify some things in my own mind. I do/did have reasons for being on this site, mainly a major lack of sex at home. But I guess as one person put it ‒ if I spent as much time at home chasing sex maybe I wouldn’t need to be here. Maybe…

I will refrain from listing my specific issues to avoid the appearance of trying justify why I would look for a sexual relationship outside my marriage. So I will say simply that I have decided NOT to look which in MY mind leaves me with the following choices:

1. push hard to try to figure out what is wrong with our sex life and try to fix it

Really there are no other choices. If this effort fails then the real choices remain:

1. stay in the marriage, watch a lot of porn and masturbate heavily
2. stay in the marriage, have a sexual relationship outside the marriage with all the associated risks involved
3. get out of the marriage and deal with all the emotional, financial and other damaging consequences of a divorce for me, my (ex) wife and .

So there is my humble opinion and response to all of your input.

I think I will be leaving my profile on the site (after some revisions) but only to possibly develop some friendships and to maybe come back to the well for some more opinions as my sex or sexless life unfolds.

Again, thanks to all of you who provided your opinions on this issue. And to be sure it is everyone’s opinion ‒ as the old saying goes ‒ opinions are like assholes, everyone has one. Right or Wrong and that is how we life our own lives.

Don

P.S. Sorry for such a looong post.

After reading through all the responses it seems clear that there is an over-whelming majority who are NOT in favor of having a sexual relationship with a married person, NSA or otherwise (without the spouse’s consent). There is a spectrum of opinion but if forced to answer either yes or no I think the numbers would be overwhelming for NO.

I can understand that and accept it. There is a lot at risk for everyone involved in such a situation, from STD’s, to money, to husbands (or wives) with guns. But I guess the biggest risk (depending on the situation) is the emotional toll. First for the spouse who finds out he/she is married to a person who has not been faithful; then for everyone involved (including the “other” person) and even for those not involved ‒ like kids. Any trust in a marriage will be lost immediately and once that is gone there is little hope for its survival. Years could go by before those involved recover from the emotional nightmare that could result.

So, I guess you all have the right and safe attitude if nothing else. You all have really helped clarify some things in my own mind. I do/did have reasons for being on this site, mainly a major lack of sex at home. But I guess as one person put it ‒ if I spent as much time at home chasing sex maybe I wouldn’t need to be here. Maybe…

I will refrain from listing my specific issues to avoid the appearance of trying justify why I would look for a sexual relationship outside my marriage. So I will say simply that I have decided NOT to look which in MY mind leaves me with the following choices:

1. push hard to try to figure out what is wrong with our sex life and try to fix it

Really there are no other choices. If this effort fails then the real choices remain:

1. stay in the marriage, watch a lot of porn and masturbate heavily
2. stay in the marriage, have a sexual relationship outside the marriage with all the associated risks involved
3. get out of the marriage and deal with all the emotional, financial and other damaging consequences of a divorce for me, my (ex) wife and kids.

So there is my humble opinion and response to all of your input.

I think I will be leaving my profile on the site (after some revisions) but only to possibly develop some friendships and to maybe come back to the well for some more opinions as my seless) life unfolds.

Again, thanks to all of you who provided your opinions on this issue. And to be sure it is everyone’s opinion ‒ as the old saying goes ‒ opinions are like assholes, everyone has one. Right or Wrong and that is how we life our own lives.

Don

P.S. Sorry for such a looong post.

Like seless)